Feeling better

[jeriendhal]

Please forgive the emo post from yesterday. I was feeling really down about the whole situation. Today is actaully a bit more hopeful. We filled out a form the shrink gave us to map out what Tom doese and does not do last night, and he actually is capable of quite a lot. His main problem is a few fine motor skills and communication. We were dreading doing this form, but it served to cheer us quite a bit.

Anyway, our household is more or less on an even keel. Tracy is staying home with Tom today, since he's running a bit of a fever, but otherwise we're all right. Thank you to everyone who commented on my last post and offered your sympathy or advice. It was all appreciated, believe me.

Comments

[kikibug13.livejournal.com]

Eh, that sounds good! *still sends love and good thoughts over* I hope Tom is better soon, and you get a lot of cuddles from him!!!

[jfsnyder.livejournal.com]

I hope Tom feels better soon! Did you fill out an ABS? I'm glad it made you feel better, it is always good to concentrate on the positive. Good luck!

[jeriendhal.livejournal.com]

Yep, it was the ABS. :)

[scarfman]

There are degrees of autism, you know. The discovery is fairly recent; certainly it didn't figure in the novel scarfmom published thirty-five years ago. My stepson's stepson is "mildly" autistic, and my nephew is "moderately".

[jeriendhal.livejournal.com]

I know. We knew that from the start, it was just hearing the word that killed us intially. We know Tom will be high to moderately funtional, just from his current behavior. It's just the usual "I want my child to be normal" regrets that were getting us down.

[hornedhopper.livejournal.com]

Hey, what's to forgive??

I'm so glad that getting the forms filled out helped you see how much Tom *can* do, not how much he cannot.

Your description last night about how loving Tom is and likes to cuddle seems very positive to me. He *connects* with you two. As I understand it, the less happy end of the spectrum of autism would mean that he wouldn't even feel a relationship with the people in his family. He clearly doesn't fall into that category. You have obviously parented him well.

Continued prayers and best wishes to you guys. And no more apologies! How many times have you guys shored me up?

[kk1raven.livejournal.com]

I don't think any forgiving is needed. Your earlier post sounded like a normal reaction to the situation. My best wishes to your family in dealing with this.